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Keeping Your Unity (and sanity) During the Holidays

Anyone else feel the pressure during this time of year? The family is getting together and this may make things more difficult at times. The finances are stretched and we've got gifts to buy. Time is ticking, parties are lining up, the busyness can overwhelm us!

So how do we achieve one-ness with our husband or wife? If you are wondering how is this possible, read below and some of the following we've found have worked for us in the past for us and people we've helped.



  1. Prioritize Quality Time: With hectic schedules and social obligations, it's easy to get swept away. Yet, remember the importance of intentional time together. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." Carve out moments exclusively for each other, whether it's a quiet evening by the fireplace, a stroll hand-in-hand under the starlit sky, or sharing a heartfelt conversation over a cup of warm cocoa. These moments knit your hearts closer together. Even during the holidays this is possible to steal away!

  2. Serve Together: The holidays provide abundant opportunities for serving others. Embrace this season of giving by volunteering together or engaging in acts of kindness as a couple. Philippians 2:4 instructs us, "Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others." Serving side by side creates a beautiful bond, reinforcing the values of compassion and selflessness within your marriage. No need to go overboard and fly to another country. there are plenty of ways to serve even here in Montgomery county.

  3. Celebrate Christ-Centered Traditions: Amidst the festive cheer, anchor your celebrations in the love and teachings of Christ. Luke 2:11 reminds us, "Today in the town of David, a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord." Incorporate meaningful traditions that honor the true essence of Christmas. Read the biblical account of Jesus' birth, pray together, or attend church services as a family. Infusing Christ-centeredness into your traditions fosters spiritual unity in your marriage.

  4. Communication and Flexibility: Open, honest communication is the cornerstone of a thriving marriage. During the holidays, unforeseen circumstances and stressors may arise. Ephesians 4:2 encourages us to "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Maintain open lines of communication, express your needs, and be flexible in adapting to changes. A united front in facing challenges strengthens the marital bond.

  5. Communicate openly and honestly: The holidays can bring up a lot of emotions, both positive and negative. Make time for open and honest communication with each other, expressing your feelings and needs. Listen attentively to each other, and approach disagreements with patience and understanding.

  6. Seek forgiveness and reconciliation: We may need to clean up our side of the street!!! Don't delay, the holidays are a time for renewal and reconciliation. If there have been any hurts or conflicts between you, take this opportunity to seek forgiveness and extend grace to each other. Remember that forgiveness is not just for the other person; it also sets you free from the burden of resentment.

We hope this helps you during the holiday season!

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