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Part 3 of Men's Series - Recovering God's Design for Man's Heart

In recent years, the concept of masculinity has come under intense scrutiny and debate, sparking conversations about what it means to be a man in today's world. From the rise of the metoo movement to evolving cultural norms, societal expectations of masculinity are undergoing a profound transformation, leading to what is a true crisis of masculinity. Let's take a moment to explore the complexities of this crisis, its underlying causes, and the path forward toward reclaiming authentic manhood.

We are holding a Class here at Woodforest Counseling called Wild at Heart Basic that is a 3 day journey into the heart of God for men. June 6-8 are the dates for the class and spots are limited! The class price includes a journal, 6 meals, and a follow up session for the group 2 weeks later.

The Landscape of Masculinity Today: Traditional notions of masculinity, characterized by stoicism, dominance, and emotional suppression, are being challenged like never before. Men are grappling with conflicting messages about what it means to be strong, successful, and respected in a rapidly changing world. The pressure to conform to these newer, accepting and tolerant-passive (as seen in the TV show dad personas) stereotypes of masculinity lead to feelings of inadequacy, isolation, and disconnection from one's true self.

The Impact of Cultural Shifts: Changing societal attitudes toward gender roles in the home and at work, coupled with advances in technology and globalization, have reshaped the landscape of masculinity. The decline of traditional male-dominated industries, the attack of the dad in the family dynamic, and the rise of women in leadership roles have challenged long-held beliefs about men's roles as providers and protectors. Meanwhile, social media and digital communication has blurred the lines between authentic connection and superficial validation, creating a sin of comparison among men to othe men. Men like Andrew Tate and Joe Rogan are placed on a pedestal today as many men do not have healthy and Godly role models of men in their community to talk to and meet with. In my day I had coaches, Pastors, and dads who took me in and taught me these lessons face to face and in the time of need. Today a withering mentorship landscape has left many men in a crisis of identity.

The Crisis of Mental Health: One of the most pressing issues stemming from the crisis of masculinity is the alarming rates of mental health struggles among men. Societal expectations of stoicism and self-reliance often discourage men from seeking help or expressing vulnerability, leading to high rates of depression, anxiety, and unrealistic expectations of what it means to be God's man really is.

Reimagining Masculinity: Amidst the challenges and complexities of the crisis of masculinity, there is an opportunity for men to redefine and reclaim authentic manhood. This begins with embracing a more holistic and inclusive understanding of masculinity—one that honors vulnerability, empathy, and emotional intelligence alongside strength and resilience. Men are called to cultivate deeper connections with themselves and others, fostering authentic relationships built on trust, respect, and mutual support.

The Role of Community and Mentorship: Navigating the journey toward authentic manhood requires the support of community and mentorship. Men can benefit greatly from spaces where they can share their experiences, seek guidance, and challenge outdated notions of masculinity in a supportive environment. Mentorship from older generations of men who embody wisdom, integrity, and compassion can provide invaluable guidance on the path to self-discovery and personal growth.

Moving Forward with Purpose: As we confront the crisis of masculinity, it's essential to recognize that the journey toward authentic manhood is not a solitary endeavor but a collective pursuit. By embracing vulnerability, cultivating empathy, and fostering meaningful connections, men can reclaim their identity and purpose in a world that desperately needs their unique gifts and contributions. Together, we can forge a new vision of masculinity—one rooted in authenticity, compassion, and strength of character.

So, what does it mean to be God's man? Here are a couple of characteristics

  1. SERVE THE KING - Seek first His Kingdom, His glory, His righteousness. Hope in the eternal. Live for a greater reward. "But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." - Matthew 6:33 "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many." - Mark 10:45

  2. STEP UP - Lead. Initiate. Be a man of action. Assume it is your job and your moment. Hate apathy. Reject passivitiy. When David heard of it, he sent Joab and all the army, the mighty men... "Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and for the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight." -2 Samuel 10:7,12 "I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land, so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one." - Ezekiel 22:30

  3. STAND STRONG - Don't give in when you are challenged, attacked or criticized. "Now behold, I have made you today as a fortified city and as a pillar of iron and as walls of bronze against the whole land, to the kings of Judah, to its princes, to its priests and to the people of the land. They will fight against you, but they will not overcome you, for I am with you to deliver you," declares the LORD. - Jeremiah 1:18-19 "Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord. "- 1 Corinthians 15:58 "Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. But resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world." - 1 Peter 5:8-9

  4. STAY HUMBLE - Be vigilant against pride. Get the log out of your eye. Don't think less of yourself, think of yourself less. "Let the righteous smite me in kindness and reprove me; It is oil upon the head; Do not let my head refuse it, for still my prayer is against their wicked deeds." - Psalm 141:5 "You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for GOD IS OPPOSED TO THE PROUD, BUT GIVES GRACE TO THE HUMBLE. Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you." - 1 Peter 5:5-7


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