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The Digital Divide: How Video Games are Becoming The Pornography of This Decade

In the 21st century, technological advancements have transformed the way we interact, communicate, and entertain ourselves. Among Gen Z (and Millenials and Gen X as well), video games have emerged as a dominant form of entertainment and social interaction. However we increasingly see video game addiction and its tentacles impacting personal relationships, specifically within marriages. Here we dive into how these concerns are shaping modern marriages.

The Rise of Video Games in the Last Decade

Video games have come a long way from being mere pastimes to becoming a global cultural phenomenon. Gen Z, Gen X, and Millenials has grown up in this new digital era where technology is ubiquitous and video games are easily accessible. These digital experiences offer not only entertainment but also socialization and a sense of belonging, making them particularly appealing to people seeking connections and identities.

The Parallels with Pornography Addiction

Just as excessive pornography consumption can lead to relationship issues, unchecked video game use can also strain relationships. Both activities trigger dopamine rushes, leading to feelings of pleasure and reward. This sensation-seeking behavior, when unchecked, can lead to neglecting real-life responsibilities, including maintaining healthy relationships. Furthermore, the immersive nature of video games and explicit content in pornography can foster a sense of detachment from reality, potentially affecting the emotional connection between partners.

Impact on Marriages

God's plan for marriage is built on a foundation of trust, communication, and shared experiences. Excessive video game use can disrupt these vital quailities. When the husband becomes engrossed in video games to the detriment of spending quality time with their wife, the emotional and physical connection suffers. This disconnect lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and, ultimately, conflict within the marriage. This impact is no different from any other habitual sin struggles (pornography, alcohol, and substance abuse to name a few).

Signs of Trouble

It's essential to recognize the signs of potential issues arising from video game addiction in a relationship. These may include:

1. Neglecting responsibilities and household duties.

2. Spending more time gaming than interacting with one's spouse.

3. Emotional detachment and decreased communication.

4. Escalating conflicts about gaming habits.

5. Not communicating that you are going to play a game, and for how long you are doing it.

Finding Balance and Solutions

As with any potential issue, awareness and communication are key. If video game use is starting to impact a marriage, it's crucial for both partners to engage in open conversations about their feelings, needs, and boundaries. Setting limits on gaming time and creating designated quality time for the relationship can help strike a balance between virtual entertainment and real-world connections. Seeking professional help, such as couples counseling, can also provide valuable guidance in navigating these challenges.

Video games have undoubtedly become a significant aspect of Gen Z culture, offering entertainment, social interaction, and even potential career opportunities. However, just as with any form of entertainment, moderation is vital to maintaining healthy relationships. By recognizing the parallels between video game addiction and pornography addiction, and by actively working to find balance, Gen Z individuals can foster strong, lasting marriages while enjoying the benefits of both the digital and physical worlds.


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