Technology is a gift from God when used wisely. Tools like apps for learning, and FaceTime calls can keep families connected easier. Yet, Scripture warns us that the things of this world can easily become idols (1 John 2:15-17). When screens and the entertainment ang games on them dominate our time or dictate our children’s values, they can pull us away from God’s design for relationships and rest.
I often hear parents lament their children’s obsession with video games or TikTok, but the struggle isn’t one-sided. Adults, too, can model distraction—scrolling through X during family dinners or prioritizing work emails over prayer. Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to "train up a child in the way he should go," but that training begins with our own example. Technology isn’t the enemy; unchecked use of it is.
Biblical Principles for Tech-Savvy Parenting
1. Guard the Heart (Proverbs 4:23)
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." The internet is a floodgate of information—some good, some destructive. Pornography, cyberbullying, and materialism lurk just a click away. As parents, we’re called to shepherd our children’s hearts by setting boundaries. This might mean using parental controls, monitoring screen time, or having open conversations about what they encounter online. Age matters here: a 7-year-old needs stricter limits than a 17-year-old learning to self-regulate. And be open and honest about our own struggles with the over-use of technology.
2. Prioritize Relationship (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)
God instructs us to teach His commands "when you sit at home and when you walk along the road." In modern terms, this includes "when you’re streaming a show" or "when you’re texting." Technology should never replace face-to-face connection. Set aside tech-free zones—like the dinner table or Sunday worship—to foster real intimacy with your kids and with God.
3. Model Stewardship (1 Corinthians 10:31)
"Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." Our devices aren’t inherently evil, but how we use them matters. Are we stewarding our time well? Show your children how to use technology purposefully—whether it’s researching a Bible verse, creating art, or encouraging a friend—rather than mindlessly consuming.
Practical Strategies for Christian Families
- Set Clear Boundaries: Agree on screen-time limits as a family. For example, no devices after 8 p.m. or during homework. Consistency builds trust and reduces arguments.
- Engage Together: Watch a movie or play a game with your kids. Discuss what you see—does it align with Philippians 4:8’s call to dwell on what is "true, noble, right, pure, lovely"?
- Teach Discernment: Help teens navigate social media by talking about comparison, identity, and truth. Ask, "Does this post honor God? Does it build others up?"
- Pray and Reflect: Start each day with a family prayer, asking God for wisdom in using technology.
Addressing the Tough Moments
What about when technology fuels conflict? Maybe your teen snuck their phone past bedtime, or your tween saw something upsetting online. These are opportunities for grace and growth. Discipline with love, not shame. Use mistakes as teaching moments—explain why boundaries exist and how they protect, not punish.
We have counseled parents who feel overwhelmed, like they’re losing their kids to screens. If that’s you, take heart: you’re not alone, and God equips you for this task.